Question by M: (LONG STORY) EX SITUATION PLEASE READ!? NEED ADVICE?
I was in a long distance relationship for a while with my ex. I broke up with my ex last year in December, because I got tired of the nonchalant attitude, and just so much. I been having many clues to believe my ex was cheating, but my ex never wanted to admit to it.
Sometimes my ex would go a few days without answering the phone and always had an excuse, like a sickness in the family, or a best friend died. Some bull crap like that. I didn’t believe it. I felt if something is so urgent the first person you would call is the person your in a relationship with, that’s what I would have done. So the bottom line is that it was always excuses, and my ex was way older and should have known better than to play games like that. Sometimes I would notice my ex still logging on to dating sites, or social media whatever, and I would ask why you do that and I deleted my profile out of respect and my ex said oh that’s just to keep in touch with classmates from high school.
I didn’t believe that crap because it always crossed my mind and I remember that time when my ex went a few days without answering the phone and that happened more than once and I figured something was going on. Also one time I asked my ex since I was already suspicious if I could check the profile and my ex was like no you cannot login to my page, and I said well obviously your hiding something.
The way I feel is that if you don’t have anything to hide I would never have a problem giving my password to prove I was not cheating, but my ex obviously had something to hide, and out of the blue deleted the profile without letting me even see what the hell was going on.
I asked if they were cheating and the answer was no, but my ex admitted to lying to me about some other small things in the past, so I kind of felt like that wasn’t the truth but I tried to believe.
After breaking up I realize that I wish I would have ended it a lot sooner, but today I thought about messaging my ex to say I know you were cheating and you will go to hell for lying, should I send a message like that, because I honestly believe my ex really was cheating and I was just thinking about just sending the message because I believe after doing a lot of thinking they were cheatnig and I wish I would have ended it permanently a long time ago.
Do you all think it’s worth me sending my ex a message or calling and saying I know you were cheating even though you won’t admit it, should I do that or not worry about it? Please tell me how to handle this.
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